Philosophy
When everyone else seems fine but you’re stuck in place
As you scroll through social media, you see friends dining at exquisite restaurants and traveling abroad. In contrast, your own life feels incredibly pathetic and "abnormal."
In psychology, this is called the Highlight Reel Effect. It’s like watching a movie trailer and mistakenly believing the entire film is that spectacular.
🎬 Edited Version vs. Raw Footage
The single best photo out of hundreds. Capturing only the most brilliant 1% of life.
The unedited "Full Version"—complete with boredom, mistakes, and worries. The remaining 99%.
We torment ourselves by comparing someone else's "peak" to our "average." Statistically, everyone’s life consists of 90% mundanity and 10% special moments. Your ordinariness is perfectly normal.
🌿 "There is a season for your own flower to bloom"
For those struggling in the swamp of comparison, I quote Rainer Maria Rilke once more:
"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final." — Rainer Maria Rilke
Don't push away your own "terror" or "boredom" as abnormal just because you are blinded by the flashy "beauty" of others. All those emotions are simply part of your growth process.
🛠️ Mental Guide to Protecting Yourself
- 🚫 Digital Detox: Step away from your phone for just one hour. It is the fastest way to reduce information overload.
- 🧘 5-Minute Spacing Out: Don't force yourself to concentrate. Look out the window and enjoy being "blank." This gives your brain time to reboot.
- 📝 Find Your Own Highlights: Record just one small thing you did well today (e.g., "I got up on time today!").
Connecting perspectives, Exploring interaction.
Thanks, Universe.